Any mental health professional will tell you how bad it is for your health to hold a grudge. Well, to be honest, any medical professional and human being would encourage you to free yourself from the weight of animosity. Simply put: it could save your life.
Researchers at Hope College in Holland, Michigan say forgiveness seems to be better for people than holding a grudge, at least in terms of negative effects on the body. In the research plan to conduct they look to find that those who score higher on a forgiveness scale will have less anger, depression, anxiety and are at a lower risk for cardiovascular disease.*
The problem is that it’s easier said than done.
But keep in mind, those who hurt have been hurt so they inflict hurt.
When you work on changing your perspective, it becomes a little easier to loosen the grudge and replace hurt with compassion. When you have the opportunity to do so, it’s very liberating. Why not give it a try? It will be good for your career and your health.
Kim Monaghan, PCC, RYT, CPBS is the owner of KBM Coaching & Consulting LLC, a boutique Human Resources Consulting and Career Coaching Firm serving a national clientele.