Here are three powerful plans for a splendiferous, loving new year and a happy new YOU. Be nice and kind to yourself. My dying mother said, “Shelley, you’re very lucky if, at the end of your life, you can count the number of your friends on one hand.” I nodded then thought, “Yes! And one of […]
One way to understand why the holidays are so stressful is to take an ACT-based approach to rethinking holiday stress. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, a values-based approach to dealing with mental distress, is the perfect framework for understanding holiday stress because stress often occurs when two or more strongly held values conflict with each other. […]
A friend said, “a closed mouth gathers no foot” which, once again for the very first time, is a reminder to THINK BEFORE SPEAKING! How’s that for a Holiday Resolution? Think of the words “I love you!” Wow what a rush. The spoken word affects your perception.“Let mommy kiss it” and discomfort vanishes. AND words can […]
G to the O, Go Team! Go! Oh I so badly wanted to play a team sport in school. I wanted to walk down the school halls wearing my uniform, feel the highs and the lows of winning and losing as well as share inside jokes and laughter with my fellow teammates. I wanted the […]
“In the beginner’s mind there are many possibilities, but in the expert’s there are few.” -Shunryu Suzuki At first glance this statement may make your mind do a somersault, challenging your existing beliefs about what an expert is and “should” be. But I love this quote because bringing a quality of “beginner’s mind” in to […]
There is one thing that we all struggle with—confidence. We may feel that overall this isn’t an issue, but if we are truly honest with ourselves, there are days and situations where our confidence wanes. Public speaking, networking, pitching a promotion, taking a test, interviewing, asking for help, sharing our feelings and confrontation are just […]
“Thoughts bring to the thinker something of equal consistency,” states Mary Brown, an energy practitioner. “This is why people become what they fear.” When you worry you draw worrisome issues your way. We all worry. There are so many people who are fraught with worry to the point of holding them back from doing what […]
It’s that time of year when we are mostly indoors. Sometimes that means rain, other times bitter cold, snow and yes, even intense heat or work schedules can drive us indoors for days on end. Soon that cozy feeling leads to one of cabin fever. You want to get outside for a break but the […]
It’s going to happen to all of us at one time or another. We have a bad day. Sometimes it’s just once in a while and at other times it feels like it’s turning into a week. Though the level of “bad” differs for everyone—a parking ticket versus an illness, or a negative comment on […]
Happiness is a state of being. While many consider it fleeting, there are just as many others (including me) who believe this state can be sustained for lengthy periods of time. Even if you find yourself struggling with finding joy on a cloudy day, there are effective ways to uplift your mood and readily rebound […]
