A friend said, “a closed mouth gathers no foot” which, once again for the very first time, is a reminder to THINK BEFORE SPEAKING!
How’s that for a Holiday Resolution? Think of the words “I love you!” Wow what a rush. The spoken word affects your perception.“Let mommy kiss it” and discomfort vanishes. AND words can be a double edged sword.
Negative words hurt.
Here are four powerful rules to be a happy communicator. If you follow them. People feel great around you. People listen when you speak. YOU happily lead the way to joy! Follow these and watch what magic happens!
Rule One: Listen Up. Really listen and get over your inner dialogue. You learn things you didn’t anticipate when you step out of the hall of mirrors. In self-absorbed words from Bette Midler; “Enough about me. Let’s talk about you and what you think about me!” It helps to notice how many “self references” you use. Avoid the words “me,” “I” or even the “royal WE.”
Rule Two: Ask Questions. You invite interaction by asking questions and listening to answers given. Start a conversation with; “I wonder”, “I’m curious” and “What are the possibilities?” (“Possibili-Babies.) In the words of Albert Einstein; “I’ve no special talents; only passionate curiosity.” If this is new to you then just fake sincerity and soon you will really be sincere.
Rule Three: Avoid Landmines: To have pleasant family and friend gatherings, avoid politics and hot topics… It will save you grief and upset. As you avoid debate, you give healthy dialogue a chance to blossom as positive interaction.
Rule Four: Words Matter. Change the word “but” to “and” so you don’t kill what you said first. Often say, “yes; understood.” Every word you say to yourself or others generates a frequency that literally changes hormones and genetic information. Russia’s physicist and molecular biologist, Pjotr Garjajev, says: “[Healthful] suggestions shifts your cells to other genomes that actually repair chromosomes damaged by x-rays…”
Words you think or speak vibrationally “modulate DNA STUCTURE… Living chromosomes function like holographic computers via DNA radiation to capture and transfer information… This may explain why focused affirmations and hypnotic suggestion influence your health and happiness.”
Shelley Stockwell-Nicholas, PhD is the President of the International Hypnosis Federation and the author of 23 books including “WIN: Coaching Guide For Yourself and Others” and “Thrive: Medical Hypnosis For Yourself and Others” she invites you to join her Facebook page “free hypnosis- IHF.”